Why are you still single?

That’s such a terrible question, it’s a terrible question because of the message that it sends across; the message that there is something wrong with you.  Well first of all let me come out and say that there’s nothing wrong with being single [unless you feel that you need to be in a relationship – in which case I empathize with your desires to connect with another person].

Secondly, I would like to take a stab and answer this question.

I am still single because I am on a journey of discovery; I am looking for a person to travel along my side.  I am moving in a particular direction and although I am meeting new people along the way some are on a different path, some think that my path is too challenging, and although there are those who have the potential to go along the same route I am still struggling with the concept of explaining the value/purpose of where I am heading.

It’s a mountain; that’s where I am heading; it’s such a fitting analogy.

I meet people and I tell them; “hi, im going up there, im climbing a mountain, want to join?  There’s an awesome view at the top!”

“Hell no” or “maybe another time” or “we don’t have the right chemistry for such a journey” … boy are those some charming comebacks

Obviously disspointed I reply: “okedoke”; I turn, face the hill and bounce along

I have to confess something dear reader: this analogy is hilariously fascinating.  A few months ago while trying online dating I had a whimsical thought: the right woman for me would not be on these sites but rather would be climbing a mountain.

How fitting it is to finally make that connection.

Even so, regardless of the now.  I think it’s important to carefully look at those who cross our path; I think many of us tend to get upset and frustrated with the outcome.  What is important and what puts a smile on my face; is the realization that the experiences that we share with others help us grow, they helps us change, they helps us go beyond our abilities and understanding of ourselves.

So there: look at yourself, be joyful, be present and keep your head high as you go forth on your wonderful path.

PS: be kind to those that you meet along the way.

Max